How do you
spend your time?

Does any of this sound like you?

• You spend a lot of time alone, by choice or by drift.
• Much of your contact is polite, scripted small exchanges.
• You fill hours with easy chat that never goes very deep.
• You pour yourself into tasks and getting-things-done.
• Some of your closest contact comes through repeated conflict.
• Real, open, undefended closeness is rarer than you'd like.

Each of those is a way of structuring time — and the mix shapes how connected, or how hungry, your days feel.

What's "time structuring"?

Eric Berne said we organize our time and our need for contact in six ways, roughly from least to most intimate:

Here's how it actually plays out

None is wrong — but the mix matters. A life heavy on Activity can look full and feel lonely. A lot of Games means your deepest contact is coming through conflict. Intimacy is where real stroking happens, and it's the one most of us get the least of. Where your time concentrates tells you what your relationships are actually made of.

What this test will show you

• Where most of your time and contact goes
• What that's giving you — and what it's costing
• Which way to lean for deeper connection